A Quick Break from Hiatus

So you have seen the bucket list, now comes the stuff I really want in my life over the next couple of years.

Here are my plans

Short term

1. Return to work as soon as possible
2. Spend less time online, no I don’t want to sever bonds just need more time to work on projects

Medium Term

1. Obtain a job as a Human Resources Assistant
2. Start my degree
3. Start my CIPD training
4. Find a friends with benefits scenario I am happy with
5. Pass my driving test

Long Term

1. Finish my degree and CIPD
2. Obtain a job in HR that involves some travel if possible, earning £25k or more
3. Have my own property somewhere, preferably not where I am now
4. Travel more than I do currently

I should explain the friends with benefits thing a bit more, I know you will see on my bucket list that I want to get married and have children, but that is a dream goal.  I am not commitment phobic, if the right woman came into my life in the romantic sense who knows?  The reason I want a friend with benefits scenario is for these reasons

• I am someone who believes a relationship comes from trust and trust for me is earned over a very long period of time.  I’ve had it betrayed several times in the past by women professing to love me.  One I spent 2 years getting to know before getting intimate only to find out she had omitted to tell me she was engaged to be married.  It wasn’t the fact she was engaged that bothered me, it was the fact she felt she couldn’t trust me enough not to walk away if she had told me.
• The areas a normal relationship covers outside of the bedroom I have covered by a reasonably good number of male and female friends, whilst I am not bisexual in the slightest there are some things I feel more comfortable talking to a man about than a woman.  Therefore I don’t actually feel that I need to make new boundaries for my friends.  I would rather have them for who they are, than change them, even when some of their views I disagree with, I still respect their right to have that view.
• If I am to travel, I may well want to experience things that I cannot with a partner left behind, not just sexually but in general terms too.

If however I did find the right woman she would have to be at least honest and broadminded enough to share some of my bucket list with me.  I have a saying that you don’t know what you like until you tried it and if you tried it and liked it try it again so even if there are things taken off my list that I have done so far I have enjoyed them so wouldn’t mind doing them again.  There aren’t many gone as yet.  I had hoped for more but with my circumstances the way they are there was no chance of doing many of them, even the ones that look easy take money I haven’t got.  Maybe in the future that will change.  I hope so.